by James Burns | Jan 17, 2012 | Bully Proof Classroom, cyberbullying, Parents, Teachers, Technology
Cyber bullying is a term used to define recurrent and sustained verbal and/or physical attacks by one or more children towards another child who is unable or unwilling to deescalate the engagement using information and communication technology. Like classic bullying, cyber bullying is harmful, repeated and hostile behavior intended to deprecate and disparage a targeted child.
Bullying use to be confined to schools, neighborhoods or some small geographic location that the bullied child could leave and seek respite. With cyber bullying, the target child has no escape from the taunting and harassment afforded by the internet and mobile digital technology. Given the variety of methodologies cyber bullies use, which continues to expand, provided below are the ten most common.
1. Exclusion: Exclusion is a cyber bullying tactic that is highly effective and indirectly sends a provocative message to the target child without the need for actual verbal deprecation. As its well-known children and teens are developmentally fixated on being recognized by their peers, the process of designating who is a member of the peer group and who is not included can be devastating to the target child.
2. Flaming: Flaming is a term describing an online passionate argument that frequently includes profane or vulgar language, that typically occurs in public communication environments for peer bystanders to witness including discussion boards and groups, chatrooms and newsgroups. Flaming may have features of a normal message, but its intent if designed differently.
3. Outing: Outing is a term that includes the public display, posting, or forwarding of personal communication or images by the cyber bully personal to the target child. Outing becomes even more detrimental to the target child when the communications posted and displayed publicly contains sensitive personal information or images that are sexual in nature.
4. E-mail Threats and Dissemination: E-mail Threats and Dissemination is a cyber bully tactic used to inspire fear in the target child and then informing other members in the peer group of the alleged threat. The cyber bully sends a threatening e-mail to the target child and then forwards or copy & pastes the threatening message to others of the implied threat.
5. Harassment: Harassment is sending hurtful messages to the target child that is worded in a severe, persistent or pervasive manner causing the respondent undue concern. These threatening messages are hurtful, frequent and very serious. Although sending constant and endless hurtful and insulting messages to someone may be included in cyber stalking, the implied threats in harassment does not lead the target child to believe the potential exists the cyber bully may actually be engaged in offline stalking of the target child.
6. Phishing: Phishing is a cyber bully tactic that requires tricking, persuading or manipulating the target child into revealing personal and/or financial information about themselves and/or their loved ones. Once the cyber bully acquires this information, they begin to use the information to access their profiles if it may be the target child’s password, purchasing unauthorized items with the target child’s or parents credit cards.
7. Impersonation: Impersonation or “imping” as a tactic in cyber bullying can only occur with the “veil of anonymity” offered by digital technology. Cyber bullies impersonate the target child and make unpopular online comments on social networking sites and in chat rooms. Using impersonation, cyber bullies set up websites that include vitriolic information leading to the target child being ostracized or victimized in more classic bullying ways.
8. Denigration: Denigration is used in both classic and cyber bullying, denigration is a term used to describe when cyber bullies send, post or publish cruel rumors, gossip and untrue statements about a target child to intentionally damage their reputation or friendships. Also known as “dissing,” this cyber bullying method is a common element and layer involved in most all of the cyber bullying tactics listed.
9. E-mail and Cell Phone Image Dissemination: Not only a tactic used in cyber bullying, but a form of information exchange that can be a criminal act if the images are pornographic or graphic enough depicting under aged children. Children can receive images directly on their phones and then send them to everyone in their address books. Of all cyber bullying methods, this tactic, which serves to embarrass a target child, can lead to serious criminal charges.
10. Images and Videos: Briefly described in Happy Slapping, the usage of images and video recording has become a growing concern that many communities, law enforcement agencies and schools are taking seriously. Due in part to the prevalence and accessibility of camera cell phones, photographs and videos of unsuspecting victims or the target child, taken in bathrooms, locker rooms or in other compromising situations, are being distributed electronically. Some images and videos are emailed to peers, while others are published on video sites.
by James Burns | Dec 25, 2011 | Bully Proof Classroom, Parents, Teachers
Bitterness
The word is out. Bullying will not be tolerated. Schools, communities, and society have now drawn the line. Students will be disciplined in school for it, employees and employers will be held accountable for acts of harassment and intimidation, and everyone must be on guard in terms of what they say and how they act. The internet is filled with anti bullying programs, campaigns, lesson plans, strategies, and self help sites. States across the country have now passed anti bullying legislation, and New Jersey is leading the way with its Anti Bullying Bill of Rights. That’s it. NO MORE BULLYING! Well, I hate to disappoint everyone but bullying is not the problem; the root problem at least. Bullying is the symptom. It is the symptom of deep seeded anger (bitterness), the desire to do what we want and get what we want when we want it (greed) and the consequences of our past behaviors that were left uncorrected (guilt).
We are quite a society. Better yet, quite a country. Anytime we see a problem we create a law or we throw money at it with the hopes that it will go away. That’s right. A kid kills himself because of being bullied into emotional submission so let’s create a law that says, NO MORE BULLYING. Makes sense, I guess. But what about the kids or adults who bully? What is their real problem? What makes them want to act out the way they do? Remember, bullying is the symptom. Why treat the symptom? It only provides temporary relief, not permanent help. Did you ever have chest pains? Take a Tylenol, the pain might go away but you are still going to have a heart attack. Let’s take a look at the REAL problem.
Parents today don’t really take the time to get to know their own children. Most times when they talk to their kid they are usually disciplining them and they really don’t know how to discipline. Parents are usually reactive. Their kid does something wrong and they flip. No balance of rules and regulations with love and understanding. You see kids are born with the innate ability to do the wrong thing. If you think this is off base just remember the first words you wanted your two year old to understand. NO, NO, NO. The social and emotional window for the brain closes around the age of five years old. In other words, a child’s perception of the world around him is formed by five. Their conclusions have been drawn, but they still have a fear of disagreeing with their parents for now. They have a good memory and if their parents were unfair, reactive, lacked empathy, and disciplined out of sheer anger the kid will remember. As a child’s bravado increases he begins to take risks and starts to disagree with mom and dad. Around the age of ten the child goes through something called mental puberty. That’s when about 3% of the kid’s brain starts to think like an adult. Then the arguments start. They don’t have to, but they do. Why, because of the parents inability to teach their child one very important skill that will in the final analysis produce life- long success. The child needs to be taught how to disagree with the right attitude. It sounds simple, right. Wrong, it’s hard. Why, because the parent doesn’t know how to get out of their own way. So, what do they do, they argue with their kid. No discipline, no love, they just argue. The parent themselves may have grown physically, but not emotionally. This arguing produces a sense of fear and intimidation in the home with the child’s perception being that’s how I get what I want. Argue. The child becomes more and more angry because guess what? He is not going to win; at least not for now, probably never. But, he will seek revenge for sure. The child will begin to become disrespectful, uncooperative and irresponsible. By the way, the manifestation of disrespect in a child is laziness. It’s not that he doesn’t want to take out the garbage; he just doesn’t want to take it out for you. A sense of despair begins to develop in the child as he/she moves into their teen years and another conclusion is drawn. This is a tough one. The now teen begins to believe; “I can’t please my parents anyway, no matter what I do, so what is the use in trying.” Ah, the bitterness is starting to creep in. The difference between anger and bitterness is anger is episodic and usually goes away within a short period of time. Bitterness is like a seed that grows in a child and becomes a tree by the time they become an adult. They are never happy, judgmental, and uncooperative, love to spread gossip, can’t take orders, disrespectful, and irresponsible. These qualities are pretty well disguised for a while. But once the person enters into a relationship the qualities begin to drip out. By the way, some of the people that a person meets may appear to have qualities that are just over the top in terms of how nice they are. They are patient, kind, understanding, polite, etc., but give it time. Remember too good is no good.
Now, how does all of this relate to bullying? These now bitter young adults get married, with no knowledge of how to raise or discipline children. They may have been victimized in their own home, by parents or even their siblings. They may have left home in rebellion because of the desire to get away from their parents. They may not even speak to their parents. They feel victimized by life and are self centered with no knowledge of how to be a good spouse or a parent. They are bitter victims. That bitterness is now taken out on their spouse and children. The message that their children learn is, I get what I want through fear and intimidation and that becomes their standard of comparison. They enter school with that attitude and ultimately become the next generation of bullies. No one wants to admit that bullying is an intergenerational problem but if we are going to begin to put an end to this epidemic it may require the healing of two or maybe three generations.
When I worked as a high school administrator, I spoke with hundreds of parents, and was stunned to find out that these parents did not speak at all to their own parents because of a riff that they had when they were teenagers. I realize that some parents have done things that are absolutely unforgiveable which requires therapy, and if therapy is needed, get it for the sake of you marriage and your children. But, if your relationship with your parents is affecting your life right now, and it requires a conversation that could result in forgiveness, do it. Bitterness is the root problem for many behaviors that people exhibit right now. Parents who have difficulty disciplining their own children need to take a look at themselves and what their relationship is or was like with their own parents. It is a known fact that people who have problems in this area lose their perception on life and can’t even recognize right and wrong behavior. Remember when someone loses control the end result is a negative reaction. Understanding bitterness, the first root problem, is the first step a person must take to help begin to solve the problems that bullying is causing in our schools and in our society.
Greed
I want what I want when I want it is the mentality of a two year old. A problem in our society today is that we have adults with this same mentality. Have you taken a close look at our economy? How do you think we have gotten into this financial mess? People wanting what they want when they want it, like a house they can’t afford. How about the epidemic of obesity, or drug and alcohol addiction? It gets to a point that it is all about want and has nothing to do with need. How about power? We all want it, right? Do we need it? How about control? A two year old child learns the ropes quickly when it comes down to getting his parents to do what he/she wants when they want it. Throw a tantrum and young parents find themselves at a loss when it comes down to how to stop it. They don’t know how to discipline. So, give him/her what they want and the tantrum subsides, until the next time. What parents don’t know is the next time will be in a grocery store or some other public place. The desire for power and control is a direct result of a lack of self control.
Bullies love power and control. They crave it. They love holding someone as an emotional hostage. A child who is given power and control in a home will crave it as he/she grows older and begin to see this type of behavior as “normal.” They will begin to develop an entitlement mentality; a mentality that no parent wants to admit to. I really don’t have a problem with people who crave money, houses, and other expensive items, as long as they can afford them and don’t believe that they deserve them and are entitled to them. When one uses power and control to get what they want that’s where the line has to be drawn.
Bullies use their greed for power and control to manipulate others, intimidate, and to instill fear into the heart and mind of their victims. This greed coupled with a lack of empathy produces a self centered and self absorbed person who will do anything to get what they want. Working on the conscience of a bully by speaking with him about his behavior may help. But you can’t grow a conscience. Character education is the answer to this problem, but as teachers we get kids when it may be too late, and the greed for power and control has already become part of their way of life. The quality that needs to be taught is gratefulness. Gratefulness vs. Unthankfulness – Letting others know by my words and actions how they have benefited my life. Tough to teach and kids need a model. I guess we all have to wok on this if the next generation of kids are going to have a shot.
Guilt
Guilt is a necessary emotion that keeps us from doing things that we know are wrong and that could hurt others. Too often though, the guilt engulfs us after we have done something that unwittingly hurt others or had an effect on out family or life in general. Parents are usually plagued by this emotion while watching their children grow into adult hood. They are overwhelmed watching their son/daughter make poor decisions that have a negative impact on their life. This guilt sits in the heart of a parent because for some reason they wish that they just had done some things different that would have helped their son or daughter avoid the pitfalls that are having unending consequences in their life. What could they have done differently? The answer might surprise you.
At a very young age children don’t know right from wrong. They have to be taught and they have to be corrected. They also have learned how to get away with things like lying, sneaking, and at times even stealing. Children who are left uncorrected begin to believe that their parents by default agree with their behavior. This is not always intentional. For example kids sneak all the time. I might not see my daughter coloring behind the clothes in the closet on the wall with crayons, but she knows she did it and she knows that it is wrong; just the fact that she knows that it’s wrong produces guilt. That guilt produces in a child and I can’t put it any other way a rotten attitude. Children are waiting to be corrected. They want to be corrected; the reason, because it clears their conscience for every other past offense. Attitude is rarely corrected, behavior is, and correcting the behavior improves a child’s attitude. It helps improve an adult’s attitude as well. Just listen to some criminals who are locked up in prison for their crimes when they are interviewed. They are contrite and apologetic for what they did. Unfortunately it took a prison sentence to do it.
What does all of this have to do with bullying? I think that it is obvious. The lack of correction leading to the guilt and the rotten attitude produces behaviors that violate the rights and privileges of other people. It produces disrespect, a lack of empathy, an entitlement mentality. These three behaviors give you the definition of a bully.
Correction is the key if we are going to begin to take a bite out of this bullying epidemic. Without it guilt will permeate the hearts and minds of our young people. Correction takes on many forms from a good talking to a prison sentence, but it is something that must be done. It should be balanced, by enforcing rules and regulations with compassion and understanding. Discipline comes from the root word disciple which means to teach. It is not enough to just discipline for behaviors that are inappropriate. Parents and teachers must continually proact and teach behaviors like respect, responsibility, compliance, and empathy each and every day providing them with the tools that are necessary for life long success.
by James Burns | Dec 23, 2011 | Bully Proof Classroom, Parents, Teachers
Victims of Bullying get bullied for a variety of reasons. Weakness is only one of them. People are bullied today for difference now more than ever. We would like to think that prejudice is yesterdays news; unfortunately it’s not. The narrow minded bully comes in all shapes and sizes and operates in all venues of society. Please click on the link below and read how one of our soldiers in Afghanistan was bullied. Not by the enemy, but by his fellow Americans who he fought side by side with. He wasn’t killed by enemy fire, he was bullied to death.
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/8-soldiers-charged-death-pvt-danny-chen-afghanistan-article-1.994762
by James Burns | Dec 15, 2011 | Bully Proof Classroom, Parents, Teachers
Disrespect is really a symptom of a deeper problem going on within the mind of a child. Anger or guilt is at the root. Often teachers are not even aware that the child is angry but notice a change in their attitude, and are not sure where it is coming from.
Rules and regulations and compassion and understanding are critical for a successful classroom to run as well as for a successful relationship to develop between students and teachers. Anytime there is an imbalance between the two, disrespect will occur. We may think that we are doing a student a favor by letting him get away with certain behavior, too much mercy however will result in a disrespectful attitude. Autocracy will also result in a problem because the student will constantly be wrestling with what he has to do to please you. It is critical to balance the two and use as much authority and influence as needed.
Some suggestions for developing a classroom of respect and kindness are listed below. They are all relationship based and encourage positive interaction between students and teachers.
PRAISE – Begin a praise day and have all students write down something they like about another person in the class. It could start, “The nicest thing about you is” and have the students finish the paragraph. This encourages respect amongst students and makes it the norm in your classroom. One student gets a turn everyday. The teacher becomes quality control and filters out any negative comments. One student a day leaves with a folder of nice comments made about them.
Of course teachers should use praise as a tool for motivation. Remember to praise character not achievement.
KEEP PROMISES – Students will wrap their life around promises you make to them. Make them very sparingly and very carefully. Consider all the variables and make sure you can control them. Don’t tell students they can bring candy to school for Halloween and then find out administration doesn’t allow it. Make promises and keep them.
SINCERITY AND HONESTY – Students can pick out a phony a mile away. Be sincere with your concerns and student abilities.
SAY HELLO – Say hello to all students. This encourages communication and helps to break down any walls between you and the student and helps build a positive relationship.
CALL BY NAME – NO NICKNAMES OR DEROGATORY REMARKS Don’t fall into the trap of calling students a name that their friends call them. Remember “Leave it to Beaver” his teacher did not call him Beaver she called him Theodore.
AFFECTION – Because of the fear of touching teachers have shied away from touching their students. We are not talking here about inappropriateness but rather a hand on the shoulder, a high five, or a pat on the back. This not only affirms but also makes the student feel that you recognize and are aware of them.
LISTENING – There are five types of listening, ignoring, pretend listening, selective listening, attentive listening and finally empathic listening. We all want to be empathic listeners. This is when we listen with our body posture and our eyes. We reflect back content and feeling. We don’t offer any advice but rather use listening as a means of strengthening the relationship. We want avoid reading our own autobiography into the conversation.
2-3-4-5 X 10 – Every day for ten days straight have a 2-3-4 or 5 minute conversation with one of your students just like you would with a good friend. Have several of these going on everyday. Around day eight the students will look to you for the conversation and develop a greater sense for you as a person.
LITTLE COURTESIES – The little things are the big things. Model.
by James Burns | Dec 11, 2011 | Bully Proof Classroom, Parents, Teachers
Opinion is opinion and we all have one. What forms these opinions is another story. Sometimes they are formed and almost appear to be judgment on a group or a method, or a habit or just an overall dislike for a person or an idea. These opinions are not based upon facts, but rather a compilation of thoughts that have been infused in us from our parents, teachers, or even the media. There is another form of opinion that is not spoken about much but it does exist, and that’s experiential opinion. The interesting thing is that this opinion can be as good if not better than empirical research.
A few years back I had published “The New 3Rs in Education: Respect, Responsibility, and Relationships.” This writing was based upon the experiences that I had as a teacher and as an administrator. It was written not only to declare war on the overall discipline problems that teachers experience in schools, but as a way of saying thank you, I feel your pain, and support you. It was highly critical of the excuses that are used for student behaviors today and how students now have the ability to hide behind a label. Too often labels such as ADHD and ODD are thrown around and often a parent is relieved that a condition exists so the condition can be blamed for the child’s behavior and not their poor parenting. In these instances I am referring to students who have behavioral problems with disrespect and irresponsibility being routine to their day. Did I do any research? Of course I did. Did I use my past experiences as method of compiling information, absolutely. Does everyone like my conclusions? Not at all. But the question that needs to be asked is; are they valid? You can be the judge of that based upon of course your own opinion. I have been called a genius for drawing some of my conclusions, and of course more recently uneducated, and unprofessional with no idea what I am talking about.
I say what no one else will, but I will tell you; even though many won’t say it, they are thinking it. They are grateful that someone is providing a voice for them and can see the problems they face from their point of view. Teachers’ today fear for their jobs. They worry about voicing an opinion, and are concerned about always being politically correct. If they speak up they could easily be hauled into the principal’s office for a reprimand and if they are non tenured possibly fired. Those in the health care industry believe I am being too hard on kids, and parents. My apologies. Every problem can’t be solved with therapy, any more than ADHD can be cured with medication. It takes a balanced approach of the two. Opinion? Maybe, take a look at the condition of education and the world today and decide if we don’t need to make a change.
I think it only fair to let you read some of the reviews written about the book so you can make a decision whether or not to buy it. The majority of them are very positive with a clunker thrown in. You can read the clunker at amazon.com if you like.
A Must read for Teachers Today!,
It’s about time someone has written a book that really addresses the problems we teachers face today. Thank goodness Mr. Burns has had the guts to tell it like it is. His easy to read book will entertain you and give you some great ideas about how you can improve your effectiveness as a teacher and even as a parent. What a refreshing change!
Truly Profound Profoundly True
This little gem helps us remember what we as a society need to be reminded of. kids thrive on structure. of course, I have oversimplified, so read this life changing book to get the whole picture. it is so readable, and very entertaining, just full of homespun wisdom and anecdotes that had me shaking my head in rueful agreement with Mr. Burns’ point of view. so, basically, I say, do not miss this book!
Motivational
I came away with renewed energy and optimism for dealing with behavioral problems in the classroom. This book is definitely an eye opener to both parents and educators. I appreciate Mr. Burns’ candor and recommend this book to help anyone dealing with behavioral difficulties.
The Truth Doesn’t Hurt At All
This book is a must read for teachers, parents, and grandparents! Finally, practical strategies to help answer the question, where has all the respect gone? Jim Burns is an educator who leads by example. His experiences with family and students are effortlessly spun into an entertaining, informative, easy, and must read for all! I admire his honesty without all the fluff and his unique ability to bring the swinging pendulum that governs our ever-changing philosophies in dealing with children back to reality. Finally a practical approach to teaching kids! Thanks Mr. Burns!
For many legitimate reasons, teachers often become hyper-sensitive and adopt a martyr complex which distorts their judgement. They work in a culture which is top down and garnished with hypocracy. Mr. Burns speaks with a matter of fact voice and attempts to trump political correctness and present a case for common sense and a system which teaches consequential thinking and recognizes that there are many reasons for behavior but there are no excuses. He cautions that creating labels for people to hide behind to excuse their behavior is dangerous. Mr. Burns is not denying the special needs of many students but would rather address these problems without labels or drugs as much is possible. Rules and regulations with compassion and understanding will better serve our children with a sense of balance than overreaction and hearing only what we want to hear.
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by James Burns | Nov 27, 2011 | Bully Proof Classroom, Parents
Liberty and freedom: synonymous? I don’t think so. We all have the liberty to do and say whatever we want. Good or bad. Oh, of course with consequences both good and bad as well. What we do with that liberty determines the amount of freedom we experience in the deep recesses of our mind and our soul. We are all supposed to be responsible, that’s a given. Responsible for what? Responsible for our thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, and our motives. Liberty is a condition of the environment in which we live, how we use that liberty will determine the condition of our soul. One can’t act on whatever impulse that moves them without experiencing the potential guilt that could plague them, maybe for a lifetime. So yes, we all have environmental liberty, but, based upon our actions we may never experience the true freedom that comes from a clear conscience. Guilt can change a person from the inside out and produce bitterness, depression, and at times mental illness.
So, how does this relate to bullying? It may take a while but here goes. Bullies use their liberty un wisely, and know full well that they do. They lack impulse control, and don’t have a clue what it means to be responsible for how they act and what they say. Their conscience is shot because of guilt and shame, and quite frankly you can’t grow a conscience. They use that liberty with no regard for the rights and privileges of another person. There is no, none, nada, freedom to be had in the soul of a bully. There is nothing there but guilt. This guilt produces a critical condemning attitude that leads to a lack of empathy for others. Their conscience may very well be seared. What’s the solution? Read on and you may be surprised.
Everyone is in a hurry until they get in front of me! Always in a rush? Always leaving late? Everyone just slows you down. How late would you be if you ran someone over or had a car accident on the way to your destination? When you are in a hurry, slow down. Easier said than done. The consequence that might be experienced from speeding might be more than a person could bear. Like killing someone or having that car accident that results in being paralyzed for the rest of your life. How does this relate to bullying? A bully is six times more likely to be incarcerated by the age of 24. Why is this so important? Because no one imposed a consequence on a bully and held him accountable for his behavior. A logical consequence for speeding might be a speeding ticket. A natural consequence might be a car accident. The consequences imposed on a bully at an early age are not strong enough for him to stop his behavior; the consequences imposed on a bully later in life do stop his behavior. What the family and the schools don’t do society does do. By the way how slow do you drive after a speeding ticket? How long would a bully continue to bully if a consequence was imposed that really hurt? I am not talking about a detention, or an in or out of school suspension. I am talking about removal from an activity that the bully would really like to participate in, or having charges filed for harassment, intimidation and bullying. What does society do with people who are anti social? They remove them, to jail. Same principal here. Once this happens a few times the bully starts to develop something that helps him begin to evaluate his behavior. That’s called consequential thinking.
Consequential thinking is merely the ability to evaluate what will happen to me if I involve myself in behavior that is inappropriate. I start to think what will happen if I use my environmental liberty in the wrong way. I begin to look at life from two perspectives before I act and ask myself the following questions; what will I gain from my behavior or what will I lose? If the loss is great enough I begin to rethink what I am about to do. Like bully someone. My liberties may be reduced, but the freedom that my conscience develops is increased. I develop less guilt and a better attitude. Sounds simple right? Wrong, it’s hard. Why, because I have to rely on someone else to impose the consequence. Families, schools, and society have to act then and only then will my behavior change. It may be hard to admit but, we are our brother’s keeper.
So, why is it so hard to restrict someone’s environmental liberty? Because everyone has rights; Rights to say and do what they want, with consequence of course as mentioned before. That doesn’t help the victim of bullying though, does it? The victim is still exposed to the bully’s attacks whether it be verbal, physical, or by way of social media. The victim is victimized in two ways; he/she is victimized by the bully, and is victimized by the fear of school, and society who always want to remain politically correct. That’s right POLITICALLY CORRECT, yes I am shouting. Don’t restrict the bully’s liberties, just let him bully the victim into becoming a bully, who is so angry, and bitter, that he exacts his revenge on his family, society, or a school; we all remember Columbine High School don’t we? Pay now or pay later. Oh yes, then of course discipline the victim, or let them discipline themselves like Harris and Kleboltz did after killing and wounding dozens of students and teachers at Columbine, they committed suicide. I could go on about victims who have lost their emotional freedom but I won’t. I will just mention one more, Tyler Clemente. The Rutgers student who couldn’t stand the embarrassment and shame of being video taped in a compromising position with another male, by two other students who exercised their environmental liberty, and then uploaded it on youtube. Tyler’s emotional freedom was taken from him in an instant. He then took his life by jumping off the George Washington Bridge. Everyone stands by the age old saying that is politically correct by the way; a person is innocent until proven guilty. Well when a victim reports that they were bullied maybe we should just assume that the bully is guilty until proven innocent.
