Post-Election Parenting: What to Do When Adults Act Up

US News January 12, 2017

How much of your parenting time have you spent teaching, talking and modeling for your children that name-calling, shouting and bullying is no way to behave?

Then along came the 2016 national election cycle. Everything you’ve admonished and taught your children not to do was on display – and your kids were watching.

So what’s a parent to do now? Here are four steps you can take to keep your kids on their best behavior – even when some adults act up.

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To The Parents of The School Bully: You Created This Monster

Huffington Post

9/30/2016 05:13 pm ET | Updated Oct 03, 2016

Amanda Redhead Mother, Nurse, Writer, Warrior

Every school has at least one bully. The child that, no matter how vigilant the school is, finds a way to make other children miserable. Sometimes this child appears to have lovely, engaged parents and no one can make out how this bully was created. More often, however, it is wildly apparent to all of us that the parents are the direct cause of the child that feels free to be cruel to the other children.

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Mental Health Issues In School

Here is a great article I found on NPR. It truly gives a great summary of an issue that schools rarely consider or address. I credit the authors for a job well done. I am posting it here to be informative about this problem that I believe is reaching epidemic proportions.

The Mental Health Crisis In Our Schools

Mental Health In Schools: A Hidden Crisis Affecting Millions Of Students

Mental health as a giant ocean wave

  LA Johnson/NPR

Part One in an NPR Ed series on mental health in schools.

You might call it a silent epidemic.

Up to one in five kids living in the U.S. shows signs or symptoms of a mental health disorder in a given year.

So in a school classroom of 25 students, five of them may be struggling with the same issues many adults deal with: depression, anxiety, substance abuse.

And yet most children — nearly 80 percent — who need mental health services won’t get them.

Whether treated or not, the children do go to school. And the problems they face can tie into major problems found in schools: chronic absence, low achievement, disruptive behavior and dropping out.

Experts say schools could play a role in identifying students with problems and helping them succeed. Yet it’s a role many schools are not prepared for.

Educators face the simple fact that, often because of a lack of resources, there just aren’t enough people to tackle the job. And the ones who are working on it are often drowning in huge caseloads. Kids in need can fall through the cracks.

“No one ever asked me”

Katie is one of those kids.

She’s 18 now. Back when she was 8, she had to transfer to a different school in Prince George’s County, Md., in the middle of the year.

“At recess, I didn’t have friends to play with,” she recalls. “I would make an excuse to stay inside with the teachers and finish extra work or do extra credit.”

We’re not using Katie’s last name to protect her privacy. She’s been diagnosed with bulimia and depression.

She says that in the span of a few months, she went from honor roll to failing. She put on weight; other kids called her “fat.” She began cutting herself with a razor every day. And she missed a ton of school.

“I felt like every single day was a bad day,” she says. “I felt like nobody wanted to help me.”

Katie says teachers acted like she didn’t care about her schoolwork. “I was so invisible to them.”

Every year of high school, she says, was “horrible.” She told her therapist she wanted to die and was admitted into the hospital.

During all this time, she says, not a single principal or teacher or counselor ever asked her one simple question: “What’s wrong?”

If someone had asked, she says, she would have told them.

Who should have asked?

We talked to educators, advocates, teachers and parents across the country. Here’s what they say a comprehensive approach to mental health and education would look like.

The family

The role: The first place to spot trouble is in the home, whether that trouble is substance abuse, slipping grades or a child who sleeps too much. Adults at home — parents, siblings, other relatives — are often the first to notice something going on.

The reality: Many families do not know what to look for. Sometimes a serious problem can be overlooked as “just a phase.” But it’s those sudden changes — angry outbursts, declining grades, changes in sleeping or eating — that can signal problems. When something unusual crops up, families can keep in close touch with the school.

The teacher

The role: During the week, many students see their teachers even more than their own families. Teachers are in a prime spot to notice changes in behavior. They read essays, see how students relate with other kids and notice when they aren’t paying attention.

The reality: Teachers already have a ton on their plates. They’re pressured to get test scores up, on top of preparing lessons and grading assignments. Plus, many teachers receive minimal training in mental health issues. But when they do see something concerning, they can raise a flag.

The social worker

The role: Social workers act like a bridge. If teachers come to them with a concern — maybe a child is acting withdrawn — one of the first things they’ll do is call home. They see each child through the lens of their family, school and community. They might learn that a family is going through a divorce or homelessness.

The reality: There aren’t enough of them. According to one model, every school should have one social worker for every 250 students. The reality is that in some schools, social workers are responsible for many more.

The counselor

The role: In some schools, counselors focus solely on academics: helping students pick classes and apply to college. But in others, they also act a lot like social workers, serving as a link to families and working with students who need support.

The reality: Like school social workers, there just aren’t enough counselors. On average nationwide, each counselor is responsible for nearly 500 students. The American School Counselor Association recommends a caseload nearly half that size.

The special education teacher

The Role: Special education teachers may start working with students when a mental health problem affects the ability to do school work. They are primarily responsible for working on academic skills.

The reality: Again, there aren’t enough of them. Nearly every state has reported a shortage of special education teachers. Half of all school districts say they have trouble recruiting highly qualified candidates.

The school psychologist

The Role: Here’s one job that, on paper, is truly dedicated to student mental health. School psychologists are key players when it comes to crisis intervention and can refer students to outside help, such as a psychiatrist.

The reality: If you sense a pattern here, you’re right. In the U.S., there is just one school psychologist for every 1,400 students, according to the most recent data available from the National Association of School Psychologists.

The school nurse

The role: Most any school nurse will tell you, physical and mental health are tough to separate. That puts nurses in a prime spot to catch problems early. For example: A kid who comes into the nurse’s office a lot, complaining of headaches or stomach problems? That could be a sign of anxiety, a strategy to avoid a bully, or a sign of troubles at home.

The reality: The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommends at least one nurse for every 750 students, but the actual ratio across the country can be much higher.

The principal

The role: As the top dogs in schools, principals make the big decisions about priorities. They can bring in social-emotional, anti-bullying and suicide-prevention programs.

The reality: Principals also have a lot on their plates: the day-to-day management of student behavior, school culture and teacher support.

Getting help, and “excited for life”

Katie says things started to turn around for her when she met a nurse at the Children’s National Health System in Washington, D.C., who finally showed interest in what was wrong.

Now, she’s begun college and wants to be a pediatric nurse.

“I’m doing a lot better now” she says. ” Obviously, I mean, I’m a lot happier. I’m excited for school. I’m excited to graduate. I’m excited for life.”

When you are finished with this article read this one:

Schools and Mental Health: When The Parent Has To Take Charge

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Captive Thoughts

Introduction

Captive Thoughts

2 Corinthians 10: 4-5 KJV

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds ;  Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

I was first introduced to this verse as a relatively new Christian in 1992. In reading it and memorizing it I discovered a few very important points about life, and by that I mean not just the Christian life:

  1. We are at war and the war is not physical but spiritual (The weapons of are warfare are not carnal)
  2. The world and our imprint (events and words that have affected us that are untrue) have created strongholds in our thinking.
  3. Our goal is to use God’s word to cast down imaginations (false conclusions about ourselves and/or our circumstances) and as we read and meditate on scripture to change our thoughts (bringing every thought into captivity making it obedient to what Christ has to say about our life, and who we are).

Our thoughts are only the beginning. As we think we can slowly begin to say things to others about ourselves or about them communicating information that is untrue and use a jaded mind in doing so. So our thoughts lead to words.

As we speak we can begin to mull over in our minds courses of action that could be taken that in most instances are based upon false conclusions and could have devastating results. Our words lead to actions.

Most times these actions are taken with the wrong attitudes and have nothing more than selfish motives. The actions could be taken in anger with the motive to hurt someone or for revenge.

Please click the links below and listen to the following podcasts. They discuss our areas of responsibility, our thoughts, words, actions, attitudes, and motives. If you are using the hard copy version use the link that is shown.

 Podcasts on Responsibility

Responsible Thoughts https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7YYeIComheYaElySnpFNDZoUGM/view?usp=sharing

Responsible Words https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7YYeIComheYX21wQzFPaEtyclk/view?usp=sharing

Responsible Actions  https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7YYeIComheYUncyek9BZzVvRU0/view?usp=sharing

Responsible Attitudes  https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7YYeIComheYSlFNakRtYkV6Z1U/view?usp=sharing

Responsible Motives https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B7YYeIComheYTWx5dlZNczN0TDQ/view?usp=sharing

All of these podcasts were done during 2013 and were part of a blog talk radio broadcasts. They were done as tips for everyone to show the progression of thoughts to actions and why a person’s attitude and their motives are so important.

This reflective journal is designed to give Christians and non-Christians an opportunity to see the power of God’s word and to use it to help change the way they think. I have offered ten topics for consideration with a scripture verse as a starting point. The reader then works to discover more scripture that relates to the topic of their choice and journals about their progress and experience in trying to change the way that they think. Always remember it is our job to do our best, but we should trust God to make up the difference.

All scriptures verses were taken from The New English Version of the Bible unless otherwise noted.

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