There is a lot of talk about bullying these days, and it seems as though the epidemic is getting worse and worse. The more we talk about it and bring attention to the bullying and suicides, the more often they occur. It’s like bullying and suicide have become trends.

So what is this?

My observation is that everything in this universe is cyclical, spinning and spinning and creating its own momentum.

The sky absorbs water from the earth, rain then falls and lands back on the earth, only to be absorbed again and turn into rain again.

Rain is the cause of Rain.

A person is teased and ridiculed by another person, he then ridicules and hates himself, thus causing him to hate, tease, and ridicule other people.

Bullying is the cause of Bullying.

And then there is another cycle I see…

A students reads from a textbook in school and learns all about the wars that have been fought in the world throughout history. Meanwhile, he is told that there is a zero-tolerance policy for violence in school, and if he should break that rule, he will be punished. However, as soon as that student turns 18 and graduates, he can go to war – sometimes against his own will – and be given a gun to fight… This war in which he partook will then be written about in textbooks, to be discussed in school throughout the years to come.

What kind of message are we sending to our children?

It seems a bit mixed and hypocritical to me…

Bullying is a heated topic for discussion nowadays. We talk about the bully as the antagonist, the victim of bullying as the protagonist, the parents of the victim who are reluctant to send their children to school… The other day, I even saw a commercial for a new online schooling program, that is available to students who are being bullied, so that they do not have to go to school in person anymore…. What are we doing?!

Let’s talk about the issue. Let’s talk about who is hurting here.

The victim? Yes. Who is the victim?

Our first answer to this would most likely be, “The child who is being bullied, of course!” And yes, I agree. That child is a victim. But who else?

The bully. The bully is hurting.

“Hurt people hurt people”

– Will Bowen

It’s all a cycle. The child who is initially hurting the most, is the bully.

So now what do we do?

Does it still make sense to simply instill a non-violence policy in school?

Does it still make sense to simply punish the child who breaks the rules?

We need to show compassion and love to the child who is hurting so much, that he has to hand his negative energy to another child, as if to say, “Please. Let me just share my hurt with you, so that I don’t have to bare the burden all by myself. It’s all I have to give.”

Rain is the cause of Rain. Bullying is the cause of Bullying. And guess what else?

Love is the cause of Love.